Find your perfect career marketing strategy, with Julie Walraven!

Category Archives: Attitude & Mental Health

How to overcome the bumps and bruises during the holidays

How to overcome the bumps and bruises during the holidays

you can't make an omelette without breaking a few eggsMost of the time, holiday posts are filled with positive thoughts and cheery greetings but the reality is that for many people, holidays don’t always represent those wonderful moments. Family issues, substance abuse, difficult or controlling personalities, and over high expectations can get in the way of even looking forward to the holidays. What if you add to those issues unhappiness in your job, unfulfilled career goals, or even job loss during the holidays?

Suddenly everything becomes worse because society keeps presenting holidays to us filled with everything sweet and light. My friend, Yolanda DeLoach captured this well in her post, 11 Thoughts Behind The Smiles of A Norman Rockwell Thanksgiving. She gives solid examples of what people may actually be thinking and how to be thankful about where you are now even when that isn’t a perfect place.

Bumps and Bruises of the holidays

When you are unhappy at work or unemployed, it is hard to focus on the positive. You find yourself comparing yourself to others and feeling like you just don’t measure up. When other things are melting down, a bad marriage, children in trouble, substance abuse, or financial troubles, you start thinking that everyone has it better than you do. You may have a family member who continually puts you down and you have internalized their words into your life. You focus on your deficiencies and assume that everyone has it better than you. The reality is that no perfect people live on earth and though you may not see other people’s issues, it doesn’t mean they aren’t there.

10 Actions you can take to stay strong during the holidays

  1. Stay active. Whether you exercise, take a walk or run, or simply do some extra cleaning, you will do better staying active.
  2. Don’t focus on what you don’t have. You don’t have to fall for all the glitz. Keep it simple.
  3. Build new traditions. Find things to do that are cost-free. Build snowmen, make hot chocolate, or take walks in winter wonderland if you are in the northern states.
  4. Help someone. It could be your elderly neighbor who needs light bulbs changed or sidewalks shoveled. It could be the local food pantry or homeless shelter. When you give to others, your own problems often get smaller.
  5. Find pleasure in little things. Read a book, make a puzzle, or have a family game night.
  6. Eat healthy. You don’t need every fattening tradition during the holidays. Healthier choices leaves less regret.
  7. Learn something new. With education at your fingertips with our abundant technology, you can learn new things easily and often for free.
  8. Share your feelings with someone you trust. If you continue to internalize the way you feel, it can become an endless cycle.
  9. Keep an gratitude journal or notes. Writing things down is helpful to make you remember the good things.
  10. Say thank you to someone who helped you along the way.

It isn’t easy but there is no reason to continue this cycle. You can break it.

Need help? While job search is often painful, as a Certified Master Resume Writer, I take the pain out of writing your resume and even make it fun with a personalized, interactive process. Know someone who needs me? Gift certificates are available. Explore my resume packages here.

Photo Credit

Do you want to be on the cutting-edge of your career and job search? Read More Posts Like This One!

Simply Click Here

Posted on
7 tiny changes to massively improve your email productivity!

7 tiny changes to massively improve your email productivity!

When I talk to friends,  clients, and colleagues, a common theme is that they are overwhelmed and overstressed. I have to admit that I do fall into that category too at times. It has been one of my goals to change that this year. Let’s start with email today Email Overload For those of us in…

Posted on
Don’t let your past failures scare you

Don’t let your past failures scare you

Halloween is upon us and we think of scary things. During the rest of the year, many people are frightened by their failures lurking in the past ready to resurface and take over. They feel fear and when anyone is fearful, it is hard to take steps to move forward. You keep waiting for the next…

Posted on
5 secrets to avoiding burnout in your career

5 secrets to avoiding burnout in your career

I am sure prior generations hit the burnout point too but I believe there are more people struggling with burnout today than ever before in history. Wherever you go, you hear conversations about being overwhelming, unappreciated, and overworked. Causes of burnout in your career Technology → despite the idea that technology was created to simplify life, technology…

Posted on
Make a move and trust!

Make a move and trust!

In a Facebook conversation with Jacqui Barrett-Poindexter from Career Trend while talking about my husband’s decision to leave the caregiver role he had with his dad for the past 8 and a half years, I said “Sometimes you just have to make a move and trust.” Jacqui can relate. She and Captain Rob (her husband)…

Posted on
How to inject fun into your job search

How to inject fun into your job search

You’re probably thinking, “Jobsearch isn’t fun, it is anything but that.” I don’t believe in approaching life that way. If you make something fun, you will enjoy doing it and you may even do it better. I make games out of things I have to do. I set up little competitions with myself. For example, when…

Posted on
Don’t let yourself be bullied in your job!

Don’t let yourself be bullied in your job!

You thought bullying only happened in school? Wrong! Stopbullying.gov defines bullying as: Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally,…

Posted on