Are you a doer or a whiner?

I bet every family has one. Possibly every office too. The person who is quick to point out the  faults of someone else but doesn’t see their own. This problem goes back to Biblical times. Anyone remember this verse from Matthew 7:3?

Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?

I had to laugh this morning. We got about an inch of snow and my husband went out to shovel quick before he took our oldest adult son to work. We live on a corner with a school down the hills so if we can shovel before the school kids tramp it down, it is both easier for us to remove and safer for them.

But it was getting late and I told my son that he needed to get going. His comment was, “Well, if Dad had scraped the car windows instead of shoveling, we would be gone.” I just looked at him and said, “You really should check your alarm.”

That was pretty good for me because I really wanted to point out that if my son had scraped the windows for his dad or helped shovel, they also would have been on the road sooner. However, I knew that my quick-to-retort son would have had an answer for that. He’s an expert at the blame game.

Are you the doer or the whiner?

Some people seem to be quick with the sharp comment, quick to complain, and quick to criticize but slow on seeing their own problems. If you are the doer, you will be out finding a solution, pitching in, and helping others.

We all can fall into the whiner role at times, complaining about the weather, about household issues, about politics, or about work, but being the one who helps out and brings solutions makes you the valuable team member whether it is in a family or at the work place.

Which are you? And what can you do to be the positive solution today?

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  1. Donna @ RetreatIdeas on February 14, 2012 at 4:18 pm

    An absolute whiner while doing! 🙂

    Seriously, I like to point out weak points and talk about them while finding out solutions for those problems. As I talk about it, more and more ideas come to my mind.

    • Julie Walraven on February 14, 2012 at 5:42 pm

      The combo works, Donna. It is the whining only option that annoys me. If you see weak points, bring up a constructive discussion, and then offer creative solutions, you are an asset to any organization.

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