Why is networking hard for job seekers

Is networking hard for everyone? The correct form of networking is personalized networking that builds relationships or nurtures old relationships. What networking is not is speed dating as I said in this post.

You aren’t trying to connect with a massive amount of people. Rather, you want to create the opportunity to be a resource for other people with a hopeful goal of them being a resource for you.

Ideally, networking is done best long before you need it, as Harvey MacKay said in Dig your Well before you are Thirsty.

Unfortunately, for most job seekers and even entrepreneurs, networking is done mainly when you are in trouble.

Are most people lazy networkers?

Actually, I don’t think most people don’t network because they are lazy. Some don’t network because they never understood the concept and never spent any time reading or learning about networking.

I would guess many people who don’t network are afraid to network. They visualize large gatherings and passing out business cards. They think because they don’t see themselves in the business world, networking must only be for people in management or sales.

Networking Hard? Engage new advocates

Seek people to be your advocate. I would suggest this meaning from Merriam Webster for advocate:: one that supports or promotes the interests of another.”

Networking hard?

You are not alone. I confess, I am both shy and an introvert, though you wouldn’t know that from my presence online or from working with me in a client relationship. However, for all of my life, I have struggled with group events even when I know the participants and even when I am friends with many of the people in a room.

I get scared and have even been known to back out or just stay busy in the background rather than networking. I gave it another try this year for a while. I made a big push to get out there.

I found that despite trying group networking, I like being one-on-one more. I didn’t really see any results from more networking so now I will go back to picking and choosing my networking. I truly look forward to my Christian Business Leaders group that meets monthly for breakfast and have built many great relationships there. I also enjoy the quarterly group that my new friend, Kat, WritinRhythm, pulled together by using LinkedIn, the words marketing, and Wausau, WI in a search. We’ve met twice and it was fun both times.

Transition from group networking to one-on-one

If you struggle with groups, do some searching to see if there are any that make you feel comfortable. If not, don’t despair, you can still network effectively by using a one-on-one strategy.

Invite someone you don’t know well to lunch or coffee. You can network and get to know each other. I actually got to know Kat when she asked me to connect on LinkedIn and we decided to have coffee. She offered me a ride and after giving her my address, we discovered she lived right down the street.

See there may be networking opportunities for you just down the street. You never know. Think about the word advocate and the word nurture today. And then take a step forward and connect with someone from your past, from social media, or someone you want to know better.

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Why is networking hard for job seekers


  1. Brent Peterson on June 11, 2013 at 10:57 am

    Nice post Julie. Like anything, networking takes practice. I’m generally shy working a room but if I pretend like I’m the host, I see opportunities for introductions and service all around me.

    • Julie Walraven on June 11, 2013 at 5:38 pm

      Thanks for stopping by, Brent. I do very well if I have a job at an event. Registration, whatever, but if I am just there, it is hard. It is not so hard if someone comes with me, even better if that someone wants someone with them. I feel like I’m needed then.

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