A job search is hard enough without being sabotaged by well meaning friends or family members.
I have worked with job seekers and career changers through multiple ebbs and flows in the economy in the years that I have been a career marketing strategist and resume writer.
Whenever you lose a job, you go through the same feelings that anyone does in a loss situation. You need time to work through the stages of grief.
Take Anything – Get a JOB
Your family may be going through their own stages of grief but often may seem much less willing to let you go through yours. Even after a week of being unemployed, they may want you to take any job that comes along.
Since the length of a job search has grown in this current economic crisis, family may be pushing you to just grab a job. Get a Job. Any job. Perhaps they are even suggesting a low level job that doesn’t at all compare to your recent position as Director of Operations for XYZ Corporation. They might tell you, “McDonald’s is hiring.”
Could you sabotage your future employment?
While taking a job just to cover expenses may be a solution and in some cases, it might be the right solution, it has its own risk. I have worked with clients who have grabbed a job off base from their talent, skills, or level of expertise and then found that it didn’t work out. Then they grab another one which also fails. Pretty soon, their resume is choppy and off track with no logical sequence for the prospective employer to grasp. It may even make the employer wonder if the person is a job hopper or doesn’t really have the skills for the more advanced position in the future.
Sometimes, it is easier for another person in the family to get a short-term position to cover expenses while the spouse works on creating the connections to their next position.Even if your family structure is such that one spouse stays home with the children and runs the household, you might find that this is the time to reverse roles and at the same time, schedule friends or family to help cover for the job seeker when he has an interview or networking meeting.
Job search is a strategy.
You need to be prepared with a keyword rich, accomplishment-driven, value-filled resume, research potential opportunities, work at networking your way into the companies that attract you, and brush up on interviewing. And that’s just my short list without delving into the intricacies of creating a LinkedIn profile, launching a subject matter expert blog, or starting to communicate on social networks.
So if you are the family member reading this, think through your strong desire to get everything back on track and see if you can help the job seeker find the right position and not just “a job.” In the long run, your family structure will benefit from someone who feels fulfilled in his work and happy that he or she is contributing to the family income once again.
Have you experienced sabotage in your job search?